Facilitating Groups

In this module, you will learn the transformation practice of gathering people in your community in conversation. We believe that relationships are the foundation to weaving and to building sustainable change for our neighborhoods. Having a conversation and sharing our personal stories across lines of identity and ideological difference can help us see ourselves more clearly and can help us build a more full understanding of the story of our communities. To help you lead these conversations, you will learn How to Prepare for the Conversation, Basic Facilitation Skills, and What to do When Things Get Hard. Our partner, The People’s Supper, will take you step-by-step through this process, with videos, activities, and downloadable guides to help you, whether you’re bridging divides, building community, or strengthening relationships in your neighborhood.

You can pause and pick up where you left off at any point, until the reflection. Once you complete the reflection, Weave staff will email to you a Certificate of Completion.

We also invite you to discuss your learning and thoughts on how this content applies to weaving in our online community. You must be a member of the community to receive the certificate and post in the community. Please join today.

This course is a collaboration with The People’s Supper. It is part of the Weave Learning Center.

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Lesson 1: How to Prepare for the Conversation

Deciding to have a conversation across ideological or identity difference requires work long before the conversation happens. These conversations can be difficult, and so you want to go in with a clear sense of whether you are ready to have the conversation, what your triggers are, what your reactions can be, and how to engage with care. This module will look at how to examine those patterns and impulses in you in order to prepare well for the conversation you hope to have.

Video: Preparing for Conversation

Activity 1

As you Weave, Having a sense of your own patterns and impulses that show up for you in the conversations you have is necessary in the work of trust building and harm reduction. It’s also helpful to model for your conversation partners that this work is just as much about self examination as it as about hearing other’s stories:

Having a sense of these patterns helps you to better show up in a conversation.

Activity 2

Weaving is a long game. It is not a fair or realistic expectation that you can show up to a conversation like this in every single moment. With that in mind, it helps to have a tool to check in with yourself about your capacity to have the type of conversation you’re hoping to have. This is also a beautiful way to model and invite care within the community you’re weaving with.

If you start to feel overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to reach out to your conversation partner and say, "Hey, I am not in a place to show up to this conversation as I’d like to today, so I’m wondering if we can reschedule?”

Lesson 2: Basic Facilitation Skills

As you’re weaving, it will be helpful to have some basic facilitation skills to host the important, but sometimes difficult, conversations about what your community most needs. This module will help you consider the goal for your conversation, who to invite, how to invite them, how to set ground rules, and how to pick questions to ask that allow the conversation to be a place where real trust is built.



Read the following invitation language, and then answer the questions below:

Hi Dr. Jones

I hope this email finds you well! I have been so disheartened by the feeling that political polarization is growing in our community, and I want to have a conversation with neighbors across political lines as a counternarrative to that. I think it is important for us to be intentional about spaces to practice this kind of dialogue. I’d love for you to join us!

I’m going to have a group of about 10 people over to my house next Friday night at 7:00 for a meal. I’m inviting a group of trusted friends who I know have the ability to engage with thoughtfulness and care. This will be a chance for us to break bread with new people and share stories about the people and moments that make us who we are. We will walk through a short series of questions designed to crack the conversation open.

As I was imagining this dinner, you came to mind. I have so appreciated your class and the insight and perspective you bring- and think your attentiveness to history and culture would be so valuable in the conversation.

You can RSVP directly by emailing me back. Please let me know by next Tuesday if you plan to attend! If you don’t have the capacity to show up for a conversation like this right now, I completely understand. If all goes well, I hope to host more of these- and will keep you in the loop!

Looking forward to talking with you soon!


K Scarry

After you've read the above, consider:

Lesson 3: What to do When Things Get Hard

Humans are complex, and so it’s inevitable that, while we are building relationships with one another, there will be moments that get hard, or where harm is done. This module will explore how to navigate that- what can you do in a conversation where someone says something harmful? How do we address that harm while still creating a sense of belonging for everyone in the room?



Course Reflection

Once you feel ready, click below to take the final Certificate of Completion. A Weave Leader will reach out with your results and next steps. You can retry later if needed.